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Transform Your Life: Simplify, Plan, and Stay Motivated

The Nature of Passion: Embrace Change

When I was younger, I was passionate about Snoopy. Today, I’m indifferent and no longer desire to collect Snoopy memorabilia. Back then, I might have been known as “the girl who collects Snoopy memorabilia.” Now, my activities have changed. You are not defined by what you choose to do; you are defined by the effort you put into those activities. Passion is key to success in anything you pursue.

Time for a Fresh Start?

I love mornings, Mondays, new months, and new years. Each new beginning excites me with the possibility of changing my life’s direction. Monthly, I create new habit trackers, to-do lists, and goal lists. While I was incarcerated, I realized I needed to change my daily routine monthly to stay motivated and avoid boredom. Some habits remain consistent, but I generally create a new routine every month or two.

In my early twenties, moving to a new place was an opportunity to reset my life. I would clean out my closet, discard unused items, and create new routines. Today, moving is the last thing I want to do. Instead, I change my routine, deep clean, and organize my space to satisfy my need for novelty.

Finding Joy in Movement

I love walking outside in new places, enjoying nature, nice neighborhoods, and getting lost in the beauty around me. I hate walking on a treadmill—it bores me quickly, and my OCD kicks in as I obsess over tracking my time, distance, and calories burned. What changes do you need to guarantee success in your life?

For me, I dress in my workout clothes first thing in the morning, pack my work clothes, makeup, hair tools, breakfast, and lunch in my gym bag, and hit the gym at 5:30 am. This routine ensures I get my workout done and prevents me from spending money on unhealthy convenience store foods.

Planning Meals for Success

Another habit I practice is weekly meal planning. I plan at least five meals and shop for groceries on Sunday or Monday, so I know what we’ll be eating each evening. Waking up early allows me to prepare ingredients, ensuring I don’t get lazy and back out of making dinner. This habit has saved me and my partner from eating out or grabbing fast food countless times.

Making Discipline Easy

Discipline alone doesn’t work; you need to make tasks easy to accomplish. For instance, if all the ingredients for dinner are bought, cut, thawed, and ready to cook, you’re more likely to stick to your dinner plans because it’s easier.

I struggle to sit at my desk and work on my book. I’ve found that a cute coffee shop, library, or other inspiring location helps me get excited about writing. It gives me an excuse to get out of the house and experience new places while making progress on my book.

Simplify Your Goals

  1. Lose Weight – Buy fun, healthy foods. Shop at a new grocery store. Find easy, new recipes you want to try.
  2. Exercise – Make morning gym visits easy. Pack your bag and lay out clothes the night before. Explore new locations, take dogs to the dog park, choose a new trail weekly, walk while golfing, or stroll in a beautiful neighborhood.
  3. Write a Book – Plan inspiring places to write that get you out of the house and keep you motivated.

Show Up Where the Work Gets Done!

Run experiments. Try a library, coffee shop, park, or gym. Don’t be afraid to change and experiment often. I know I need new experiences to stay motivated.

Schedule Your Goals

Have time, location, start time, and stop time scheduled before you start. Leverage your goals by marking them on the calendar. Can you overlap two goals to get both done simultaneously? For example, take your dogs to the dog park and walk with them.

I would love to hear about your hacks around simplifying tasks and leveraging new experiences.

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Finding Joy in Unexpected Places

During my time in prison, I experienced moments of happiness that surpassed any I had known before. I made it my mission to find joy and savor each day, no matter the circumstances. This was still my life, and I could continue to grow and help others. Even behind the metal fences that separated me from the outside world, I found beauty.

How did I achieve this? By embracing mindfulness and living in the moment. Some days, it was watching the sunrise as we traveled to our job site. Other days, it was simply sitting on my bed, observing the interactions and banter around me. My situation forced me to notice the small details that often go unnoticed.

I had more time than ever to focus on self-improvement. I delved into religious studies, practiced French, read historical novels, and memorized metric conversions. Apart from working 4:30 am to 12:30 pm four days a week, the rest of the time was mine.

Being surrounded by people with diverse backgrounds provided endless learning opportunities. I witnessed practices, beliefs, talents, and routines I had never encountered before. Each person had a unique gift, whether it was crafting, threading eyebrows, or simply making others laugh.

I learned to value my relationships more deeply. Contact with loved ones became more frequent and heartfelt. My soul was cleansed of social media, and I felt compassion for those who used it to seek validation.

Have you ever found joy in unexpected places or during challenging times? How did you manage to find beauty and happiness despite difficult circumstances? I would love to hear your stories and experiences. Please share them in the comments below or reach out to me directly. Let’s inspire each other with our journeys and the lessons we’ve learned along the way.

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The Impact of Media Ideals on Personal Happiness

Have you ever pondered a world devoid of television, newspapers, and magazines? Imagine a life unswayed by the media’s fabricated images of perfection and success. If our realities were shaped solely by direct experiences, would the specter of depression still loom for chasing an unattainable ideal? The allure of a flawless existence—magnificent homes, celebrity, wealth, and aesthetic beauty—is a mirage perpetuated by the media. Such perfection is a myth, an unachievable standard that leaves us grappling with disillusionment. The truth is, every aspect of what we consume is curated, from the narratives of reality shows to the stories we follow.

In my younger years, I would envision my life as if it were a cinematic masterpiece, a seamless blend of fantasy and desire. With each passing phase, I endeavored to embody an unfeasible persona, and with it, happiness eluded me, for I was always in pursuit of the next unobtainable thing. Now, in moments of reflection, I recognize the countless experiences that slipped by—not for lack of presence, but because my heart and mind were elsewhere.

In the relentless pursuit of validation, we often become actors on the stage of life, performing for an audience we believe holds the key to our worth. This ceaseless striving to impress others can lead us to miss the genuine moments that make life truly rich. We are present, yet not fully—our minds preoccupied with crafting the perfect image, the right words, the most impressive achievements. It’s a chase that leaves us breathless, not from the exhilaration of living, but from the exhaustion of pretending.

The irony is profound: in seeking admiration, we overlook the simple joys that deserve our full attention. The laughter of loved ones, the quietude of a morning sunrise, the spontaneous conversations that meander into deep connections—all sacrificed at the altar of approval. It’s only when we pause the performance and step off the pedestal that we realize happiness was never in the applause. It was in the unscripted, imperfect, and beautiful moments of being truly ourselves, surrounded by those who cherish not the mask, but the authentic soul beneath it.

Life’s fleeting moments often slip past unnoticed as we chase the elusive narratives spun by the media. Now, as I sift through photos of my existence, I yearn to hold onto those memories a bit tighter. I seek to immerse myself once more in the warmth of Cancun’s sun, to be enveloped by the laughter that echoed across Cabo San Lucas’ sands, and to sway to the Caribbean rhythms that once guided us on the dance floor of a cruise ship. The roar of the crowd at sports arenas, the intimate melodies of guitar strings at concerts, and the serene whispers of mountain trails linger in my mind—their sounds as clear as the day they first resonated. I long for the days of wildflower hunts with my daughter, the tranquil strolls with my dogs by the river’s edge, and the Zambian sunsets, a canvas of fiery tranquility. These moments, vibrant and enduring, are the hues that should illustrate my life’s rich narrative.

I may not have a picture-perfect life, but my existence is not lacking; it is replete with a rich tapestry of locales, faces, and adventures that have graced my journey. As I gaze ahead, I eagerly anticipate the myriad of experiences the next half-century holds.